Define: Friend.

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友達.... それは何ですか

It's hard to say with people now days.

Is it a person that makes the effort to talk to you whenever they can? That feels happy when they see you online or whatever, and brings that little bit of joy to your day by saying 'Hello, how are you?' Gives back to you what you give for them? For me, yes.

Is it a person that talks to you only when it suits them? Completely ignores you because they can't be bothered making the effort, yet they can just as easy for other people? Personally, I would say this is just an acquaintance. Possibly not a friend, and if so, definitely not a good one.

Is it somebody that harasses you begging you to be your friend, spamming and noting you with Hi's and hellos? To me this is not how you go about making a friend. I would rather ignore this. Anybody that's an English speaker would know that you hear 'Hi how are you' literally from the time you're old enough to reason. You do get sick of the same thing after so many years.

What about a person you go out of your way for making gifts and such, yet get nothing back at all? Even though they make the time to return gifts to others but not you? It feels like just a waste of time and effort. Was there really a point to it in the end? Probably not.

To me a friend is somebody that talks to you on a regular basis and gives back to you what you put out to them, including making that little bit of effort to give you a gift and lighten your day, or making the effort to leave you a comment or asking to chat with you.

I am not sure whether or not to consider some I've labelled as 'friends,' friends after all anymore. Some I have gotten back from in the past, others I've just wasted time on.

I've said to a couple of close friends I give out too much. And when I do, it does hurt to never get back in return.

This might seem like a rant. Or me looking for attention or something, but I'm sure some of you would know how it feels to give out multiple times and just not get anything back. Not even a comment or a thank you.  I've had enough, honestly.

There are some I've done gifts for on here. More than once, actually. Some gave back, others just don't want to find or make the time, yet obviously have time on their hands, and I feel like efforts just go to waste. I might be wrong, but its an inevitable, lingering feeling.

This has bothered me for a fair few months. Don't get me wrong, I'm not in a sour mood or anything. But I feel like venting.
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